Thursday, 2 October 2014

If I could Change the World...

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” ― Dalai Lama 

As droplets of rain are pouring down my windows, It seems am at a little distance from my childhood memories. I can imagine myself lying on my mother’s lap and listening to fairy tales. I can imagine myself sitting on my father’s shoulder during Durga Pujas so that I can get a better view of the pandels. Oh Lord! What a beautiful memories you have given me…the more I spend the more it grows! My parents always used to say ‘If you learn to respect the world, one day the world will respect you’. I can now understand those were the words of eternity. My childhood was a mixed chapter of compassion and respect. I always believed ‘Compassion is the ultimate key to happiness’. 
                                                               There are several incidents in my life which helped me to gain lots of experience and make me complete within myself. From where I should start and where I should end I don’t know, only this much I know without my parents I would be nowhere today. I still remember the day of 27 th july, 1997 when I was only seven years old. It was raining heavily outside and I was returning from my math’s tuition. There was not a single transport available. The roads were waterlogged and I was walking down through the narrow lanes of north Kolkata. Everything was normal until I heard some weird noises coming from a house. I paused a bit, tried to found out what it was. I pepped in through the window and saw an old man was being beaten by his son and his wife. He was lying down on the floor and was saying nothing. I saw his wife was standing alone in one corner of the room and crying heavily. I was numb.

                                                                       Is this why our parents brought us up so that one day they get beaten by their own children? I was clueless. I waited for another fifteen minutes outside the house and thought that let the matter stop and I would go. But as time passes, the torture increases. The boy was drunk and accompanied by his wife he was constantly abusing and beating his father. Now, I could not resist myself. I entered their premises and rang the bell. Initially no one responded to it but at the seventh time the boy’s wife opened the door and shouted at me that what I was doing there at such wee hours of night. I was totally speechless. Really don’t know what to say. After pausing for a minute I said ‘I wanted to take your father and mother-in-law to my house’. The lady seemed to be very angry at this. ‘Do you want me to file a complaint against you to police?’ I said. The lady called her husband at these and explained him the situation. The guy looked at me with a wonder for some minutes and told in a low tone ‘Take them. They are dead for us.’ I entered the house and managed to agree his parents to go with me. There were sheds of blood on the floor. I took them out from that place and went to the nearby government hospital for his treatment. The old man was holding my hands tightly as the doctor was giving him an injection to sleep.
                                                              For the first time in life, I felt so helpless. Later, I asked his wife that what had happened. She explained every fortnight her son used to came drunk with his wife and demands for money from them. Her husband was retired and they are left with no money. He told him to transfer his properties in his name. As he had not agreed to sign the bond, he started shouting at him and later started hitting him with a stick. I was totally shocked when I heard about this. Mean time, the rain stopped. It was eleven O’clock in the night. I saw 24 missed calls in my mobile. Initially I was confused what to do but later I decided to take them to my house. They didn’t agree to my proposal first but as they had no other place to go they were finally convinced. We reached our home at 11.45 pm in the night. I explained my parents everything and asked them to serve dinner to her wife.

                                                                This incident in my life gave me a strong lesson. I didn’t know at that moment what I did was right or wrong but now as time has passed I strongly realize I was never wrong. We are a happy family now. Though they didn’t stay with us but we visit them in the weekends in the old-age home. There at least no one beats them, they can live their live freely with proper freedom. Sometimes I invite them to my house and sometimes they invite me to their place. We often go and watch movies and hang out in restaurants and chat for hours. It seems they are an integral part of my family now.
                                                                I feel so blessed that I have two parents now with whom I can share my life and take guidance from. The more I see them the respect for them increases. Now, I can touch my heart and proudly say ‘I am the happiest person in this world’.

                                                                It’s true its our small efforts which can change the world and make it a better place. There’s no point in blaming others. Blame yourself, look for the fault within you, rectify it and trust me ‘We all together can make this world a beautiful place.’ 
To conclude with the song of Eric Clapton :-

If I could reach the stars
Pull one down for you,
Shine it on my heart
So you could see the truth:

That this love inside
Is everything it seems.
But for now I find
It's only in my dreams.

And I can change the world,
I will be the sunlight in your universe.
You would think my love was really something good,
Baby if I could change the world.

If I could be king,
Even for a day,
I'd take you as my queen;
I'd have it no other way.

And our love would rule
This kingdom we had made.
'til then I'd be a fool,
Wishing for the day...

That I can change the world,
I would be the sunlight in your universe.
You would think my love was really something good,
Baby if I could change the world.
Baby if I could change the world.

I could change the world,
I would be the sunlight in your universe.
You would think my love was really something good,
Baby if I could change the world.
Baby if I could change the world.
Baby if I could change the world. 

I would love to share an interesting video which inspires me a lot in my life from 'Ring the Bell' Campaign by 'Breakthrough' :

Yes we can change the world. Only We can!

Monday, 25 August 2014

12 Most Memorable #GoaInstaWalk Pics

I offered to do a guest post for my Blogger-friend Anita's Blog - "The Explorer of Miracles"-

Anita is an ex-Software Professional, who is presently a PhD
Researcher, Freelance-Writer & Blogger. Anita has also worked as a
Freelance-Writer & Columnist with the New Indian Express newspaper for
2 years. Many of her stories, articles & writings have been published
in the leading newspapers & magazines. Anita has many interests like-
Movies, Music, Travel, Food, Technology.

I have recently visited Goa and joined in for the #GoaInstaWalk
organized by @GoaTourism  I have a lot of images to share.

I have now shared 12 pictures from my collection.

You can see my precious clicks as a Post - "12 Most Memorable
#GoaInstaWalk Pics" in Anita's Blog here-

Hope on to read!

Wednesday, 9 July 2014

Urmi Basu : The Lady with the Lamp


“Touch my life with the magic of thy fire

              And it’s burning gift of pain –

                     Make it precious…………”     

As droplets of rain are dropping down my windows, I am starting my journey to describe ‘My Mia Woman’. She is a simple lady but yet so special. To her, work is God and her organization is temple. She is that lady whom I use to call ‘The lady with lamp’. She is Urmi Basu. I met her during a press conference in 2012 and after that we are still in regular touch. She is a complete package of beauty with brains. Aged at 50, she is still so young and full of life. Her adorable lovely smile is something which always gives others an inspiration to work. She is someone who believes its only human beings who creates our own fate by our work and can successfully bring a change to our future generation and our society.
She is the founder of ‘New Light’, a private nongovernmental organization at the lanes of Kalighat, Kolkata which looks after the sex workers and their children at the red light areas of Kolkata. The mission of the organization is to promote gender equality and fight violence and abuse of women, girl children and young people. Her small initiative which she took in 2000, today provides care and support to more than a thousand people across the nation.
The organization also works to fight against child prostitution and trafficking for the purpose of sex- trade. For the last many years Urmi has been a trainer and resource person for innumerable government and nonprofit organizations. She regularly presents papers at various national and international seminars and conferences on HIV/ AIDS, trafficking, child rights and social justice. She was selected as the NGO co-coordinator by the office of the Governor of West Bengal to make a presentation on micro credit, women’s participation in gender sensitivity and health issues during the visit of the former President of the United States Bill Clinton on 7th of April, 2001.

More recently she was a part of the core team that met the Secretary of State Hillary Clinton on her visit to Kolkata and shared the experience of working against trafficking in persons. In November 2011 Urmi received the Make a change Award from Children`s Hope India, New York. In October 2012, a documentary named Half The Sky based on the novel by New York Times columnist Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl Wu Dunn was shown on PBS featuring Urmi and her work with the victims of trafficking.
Following the documentary Urmi received the Global Citizen Award at the Global Music Festival in Central Park, New York which was organized to mark zero tolerance for hunger, poverty and abuse. Urmi was chosen as a recipient of a blessing from His Holiness The Dalai Lama under the title Unsung heroes of Compassion 2009 on the 26th of April 2009 in San Francisco for her work that promotes compassion and peace.

During the movement 'One Billion Rising' in Kolkata
Urmi Basu receving holy blessings from Dalai Lama
                                                          Now, the question is why she is ‘My Mardaani Woman? What makes her so special? Aren’t there hundreds of others who are working for the same cause with the same dedication. Obviously yes! But as I feel there are some qualities in every human being which makes him/her special and different from others. The same is with her. She is someone who knows how to balance his office work and personal life. Though, her husband left her because he is not liking the work that she is been doing but still she did not gave up. Her desire to fight doubled.

She is full of confidence. She loves her work from the core of her heart. On one side she is a successful mother and other side she is a great friend, philosopher and guide with whom anyone can share their life. She is someone who believes in ‘Sharing is Caring’. She is trustworthy and so down to earth. She is an excellent writer and a good orator. What makes her more complete is her true and dedicated work for love. To her, the sex workers and their children are her own children. Whatever problem they face she is always
ready to solve it with a smile. And the most important thing I like about her is that in spite of doing such a great work but she does not want to keep herself in limelight. She once asked me ‘Tell me something if there is dirt in your own house would you tell others, hey look I have cleared it.’ She is very clear about her life’s objectives and has totally focused her life on that. As Devi Durga is protecting this universe with her ten hands, she is also standing as a guard to her organization and protecting it. I saw her facing innumerable obstacles while she has been working but she overcomes all with her strong zeal. In my life, I have seen a very women to whom ‘Work is Worship’ and that too when it’s for such a noble cause. My experience of working with her is amazing, the more I think, the more it grows. She is like a tree that has spread her branches all over the world to protect women from every possible disaster.She is like that lamp which apart from igniting herself is also showing light to other to strive towards betterment.To conclude,with the lines of  Dawna Markova :

I will not die an unlived life.

I will not live in fear

of falling or catching fire.

I choose to inhabit my days,

to allow my living to open me,

to make me less afraid,

more accessible,

to loosen my heart

until it becomes a wing,

a torch, a promise.

I choose to risk my significance,

to live so that which came to me as seed

goes to the next as blossom,

and that which came to me as blossom,

goes on as fruit.

Urmi Basu : Ponds Femina Miss India 'Women of Substance 2013'

Whatever knowledge you have given us,the more we spend,the more it grows.
You are truly as beautiful as your work!

Letter of Appreciation by Rani Mukherjee :) 

* This is a winning post for Ponds Femina Miss India Women of Substance 2013 by Godrej Eon 
and for   I am Mardaani activity exclusively at for Indian Bloggers.